Let's accept, It's important to fail!!!

The other day in midst of a long tiring journey from the airport I zoned out in thoughts, looking outside the window. What was I thinking? I was trying to fathom as to what's the single most element distinguishing mediocrity from excellence.

A lot of us have this beautiful idea in our mind to be achievers of some sort. Each individual has their own definition of excellence. All of it leading to creating a happy space in our minds. But these remain mere ideas and definitions in our head.

We have a lot of clutter occupying our minds. Some of it even includes being less appreciative of others success. Being too bothered about right and wrong of others choices. A bunch of useless thoughts which in no way are going to be helping us in our pursuit of happiness. When we are done with all the wining about the world and people in it, we get on with our mediocre life.

We seem to believe that there is solace in the cocoon of mediocrity.

"There are no easy ways, no escapes, 

Yet we wish silently things be different. 

Reality will be starring right in the face, 

Yet we wouldn't mind building castles in the air. 

Sometimes solace is hard to find in our crowded lives, 

We sneak into the cozy corner of our mind."

I feel that's exactly what needs to change. We need to attempt and break out of that cocoon we built around us. Not for anyone else, but for our own self, to feel enriched and be happy. This means that it's change that we need to embrace.

"Change is the biggest challenge of life, 

Change as they say is also constant. 

The more you avoid it, the more difficult it gets, 

It feels absolutely light within, when you begin to accept it."

So why is it so hard for us all to accept and be a part of the process of change? In my personal opinion it stems from a  fear, the fear of failure is determent to the change we seek.

Most of us are brought up in a high pressure environment with constant push to excel. We been taught the societal definition of right and wrong. Been deceived of opportunities to explore our self in a natural way and been forced to toe the lines of the right, defined by others. In the same breath we have also been made to carry the burden of not letting us commit mistakes. Failure in any form being judged as sign of incompetence.

This is what we need to overcome not just for ourselves, but also for the next  generation we will be responsible for. The first step to get over the fear of failure, is to accept that it's okay to fail. The change we seek may not happen overnight, but we got to keep attempting to triumph over the element of fear.

Most importantly it needs to be at the heart of an individuals journey to work towards transforming self in to a better version of us. All this not to get a pat on the back and impress anyone else. But to feel happy within of having got control of our own lives and building our own destiny.

- VJ says ~ cheers and peace